Is Your Partner Standing in the Way of Your Goals?
Hello everyone!!
I have a bit of a different topic that I want to talk about today… it’s a common challenge that I see with my clients, and I thought it was worth discussing.
The challenge is navigating the impact of their environment, particularly their partner.
You’ve decided to make a change and commit to getting fit. But what happens when your partner isn’t on the same page?
Maybe they keep ordering takeaway when you’re trying to stick to your macros. Or perhaps their habits — like late-night snacking or skipping the gym - are making it harder for you to stay consistent. Sound familiar?
This can be frustrating, but here’s the good news:
YOUR fitness journey is YOURS.
And while your partner might not be fully aligned with your goals, there are ways to manage this dynamic, so you stay on track.
1. Communicate Clearly and Compassionately
Your partner isn’t a mind reader. If you haven’t sat down and shared why your goals matter to you, they might not realise the impact their actions are having. Take the time to explain your “why.” Let them know what’s driving you.
Make it clear that you’re not expecting them to change their lifestyle—you’re asking for support in yours.
2. Lead by Example
Actions speak louder than words. Instead of trying to convince your partner to join you, just do your own thing. Go to the gym, prep your meals, and show them how good you feel when you’re consistent. Over time, they might notice the positive changes and feel motivated to follow.
3. Set Boundaries Without Guilt
It’s okay to say no to movie-night snacks or pizza night. Your goals are important, and sticking to them doesn’t make you selfish. Find compromises, like instead of ordering pizza, make your own.
Remember, you don’t have to participate in every habit your partner has. It’s possible to love and support each other while living different lifestyles.
4. Find Support Elsewhere
If your partner isn’t providing the encouragement you need, find a community that will (the SBS community is great at this 😉 ). Connect with like-minded people or even lean on your coach (that’s what we’re here for). Having a network that understands and shares your goals is so valuable.
5. Focus on What You Can Control
At the end of the day, you can’t force anyone to change, but you can control your own actions and mindset. If your partner’s habits don’t align with your goals, remind yourself that you’re doing this for YOU. Stay committed to the plan and keep showing up.
Your fitness journey is personal, but that doesn’t mean you have to do it alone. It’s natural to want your partner’s support, and with the right communication and boundaries, it’s possible to make progress even if they’re not fully into it.
I hope this helps, feel free to message me whenever if you need a lil support 🫶